Optimists are more successful and effective in most areas of life. You too, can become an optimist. All it requires is for you to develop four habit changes to your thinking. If you focus on one of these areas for one month each, then in four months you will be well on your way to having an overall positive mental attitude.
First Thinking Habit Change For Optimists
Look for the good in every situation. Look for that proverbial silver lining in every circumstance. No matter what is happening you should be able to think up something positive or beneficial about it. Concentrate on those things. After you find the good, be thankful about it.
Think and talk about your goals always.
Optimists think and talk about what they want, how to get it, and about the future. They are forward-thinking instead of thinking about the past. They are full of hope for a positive future.
Look for the solution to every problem.
Positive thinkers do not blame or criticize others, make excuses or complain about their circumstances. Instead they look for the next step of what to do that moves them closer to a solution.
Look for the lesson to be learned from every obstacle or seemingly negative circumstance.
There will always be something that we can learn from every difficulty. It may sometimes be hard to find it, but optimists keep looking until they find it.
In order to make these four things into habits, you may need to monitor your thoughts and possibly come up with opposite, positive thoughts in place of any that you find are negative. If you need to do this, then word your replacement thoughts in the positive, first person, present tense (i.e. “I am…” “I believe…”)
If you do these four behaviors repeatedly until they become habitual, then, you too, will become an optimist. Let me know how your progess is coming on becoming a positive thinker. I would love to hear about it. Leave me a comment.